Friday, March 6, 2009

Commitment?

I'm tired of never saying anything I feel, so here it goes! I don't want to make an example of everyone, or be rude, but I just wanted to share some feelings I thought were very interesting. First of all, commitment is a super important part of our lives as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints. The commitment on most college student's minds is the eventual commitment to marriage, an everlasting commitment! But, how about all the other choices we have to make in this life? Well, I'm tired of hearing about men always being called "non-committal" and "unwilling to commit". I just want to state that women are plenty "unwilling to commit" too, so don't put all the blame on the men! Yes, say what you will, get mad all you want, but this is just how it is, men AND women are often unwilling to commit. As an example, I sometimes like to get people together to do fun things, at least what I think is fun. But, apparently people don't feel a need to "commit" to doing something simple. Ok, you may not want to go do something like a movie, but would it hurt to say "No, not really interested"? What I'm trying to say is I would take a commitment of "No", as opposed to indifference or "maybe", "if I feel like it", "Who else is going?". I think we as members also have a problem telling people no. All of us have to come to the realization that things are not always going to be "yes". Yes is fine, and no is fine. Maybes give people a sense of "false hope", which reminds me of the Jack Johnson song, where he states "It seems to me that maybe, pretty much always means no". I think that statement is true far too often. How about we get rid of maybes? Yes, I am far too guilty than is good for me, and I'm going to start being more committal myself, so I can stop being such a hypocrite. I'm committing now to make a change! Is anyone with me? Well, this could be the start to a commitment. How about a maybe?